People communicate with each other in various
ways for a lot of reasons. And one of these reasons is when you need
something from someone. For people in business, this can either be in
the form of products or services. You may want to sell a product while
the other party must find your product useful for his intention. You may
want to offer your services while the other party must be satisfied
with the services you render according to his needs. In short, the way
to get somebody or anybody to do what you want is to make them want to
do it.
To
get something you want through intimidation or violence is to invite
trouble. Yes, it’s possible but not advisable to use forceful methods
because the results are undesirable and at times disastrous. Imagine if
you force an employee to take a leave of absence for having apparently
violated a company rule. The relationship between management and the
employee, or perhaps between management and union (if the employee is a
member of it), is likely to be severed.
To
get what you want, give people what they want. Just what do people
want? Physical health, family ties, financial security, spiritual
growth, peace of mind, a successful career, and fame are the basic needs
of people. There is one important yet intangible thing everybody wants
and that is appreciation. Being appreciated and complimented makes a
person feel important. When you feel important, you feel needed and
wanted, and this gives you a whole lot of reason for existence.
Just
how do you give somebody the feeling of importance? Say it, act it;
just give it freely, honestly, and wholeheartedly. As literal as it is,
saying how appreciative you are for a favor received, makes the other
person feel important. You may not be able to describe exactly in words
the feeling of importance when you’re in the shoes of the recipient. But
definitely, what you can not describe is real and priceless.
Pre-empt
importance. Give some sort of sign to the other person that what you
want from him, will make him feel important. Let’s take charity for
example. A recipient wants or needs contributions from the giver. It can
either be material or service contribution, or both. Even before the
act itself, the giver somehow expects appreciation from the recipient
and this will give him a boost of importance. Appreciation may not
necessarily be in words. A smile and/or a pat would suffice and they can
come from both giver and recipient. The giver shows his feeling of
being appreciated. The recipient shows his feeling of appreciation for
the gift. Somehow magic or chemistry takes place. It’s a feeling both
parties would enjoy happening many times over.
Are
you aware that the feeling of importance, brought about by compliments
and appreciation, is good for your health, mentally and physically?
Whether you are the giver or recipient, it is good for both. There are
medical findings that substantiate health effects brought about by
positive emotions like compliments and appreciation. Frequent doses of
the feeling of importance activate the brain cells and various harmonies
in the body that promote good health. To put it plainly, the feeling of
importance is the antioxidant of life.
Can
you think of a better way to nourish other people’s feelings than to
show your concern and appreciation? Well, you can show something better
than appreciation, and that is - a truckload of appreciation.
You
know what you and I and everybody else should be doing right now? We
should go out there and show our feeling of appreciation to everything
and everybody. Let’s go!
