Once
upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative,
handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person
everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was
also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he
usually said, and often did, some
very hurtful things. In fact, he
seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So,
naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how
stupid most people are!”
As he grew, his parents became
concerned about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about
what they should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a
bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer.
“Whenever you lose your temper,” he told the boy, “I want you to really
let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that
old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”
Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as
tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as
easy as it first sounded.
Nevertheless, by the end of the first
day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry
young man!). Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled
down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the
fence! Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at
all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.
“As a sign of your success,” his father responded, “you get to PULL OUT
one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t
lose your temper even once.”
Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.
At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and
take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he
said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what
happens from now on, this fence will never be the
same. Saying or
doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There
will always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re
sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a
verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable
than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will
even become friends who share our joys, and support us through bad
times. And, if they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us.
That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as we can.”
BY TARUN PATEL WWW.TARUNAPPS.BLOGSPOT.COM
